electric-ashera:

bisexualshitthatblows:

electric-ashera:

apocryph:

unicornemma:

It also sucks to tell fellow bisexuals that I am, indeed, polyamorous—it’s especially exciting if they’ve just finished saying this exact quote and ranting about how it’s terrible to assume all bisexuals are poly because “bisexuals can be faithful, too! We’re not all sluts!”

Sigh.

I haven’t really had opportunity to share the fact that I’m polyamorous with any other bisexuals, but it did occur to me the other day that my bisexual girlfriend and I are both stereotypes. Hooray?

I’m not necessarily polyamorous, but I’m pretty slutty and commitment-phobic. I don’t know if this makes me a stereotypical bisexual or a stereotypical dudebro. All things considered, though, I find it pretty funny.

I don’t have a problem with other bisexuals or anyone else being polyamorous, it just sucks when someone assumes that we ALL are or that bisexual is synonymous with polyamorous, because the two words are totally different things. You don’t have to be bisexual to be polyamorous nor do you have to be polyamorous to be bi.

I agree that unfounded assumptions suck. And I agree that the people who are liable to assume that all bisexuals are poly (or like me, slutty) are probably going to have some pretty unsavory ideas about what it means to be poly. And of course, we do want to put some distance between the ideas of bisexuality and polyamory, because they’re different things, but the WAY we distance those ideas (and ourselves, as bisexual people, from poly people) can have consequences we maybe don’t intend. We don’t want to confirm the slut-shamers in their rightness. And for those of us who DO embody the stereotype, we don’t want to feel like we’re a “problem” for the “good”, monogamous bisexuals.

Or at least, I don’t want to, because I’m a slut and I don’t really feel like being shamed.

What electric-ashera said!

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